Dear Maddy,QUESTION: My father is dying. Neither he nor I know what to say. Imminent grief hangs like a sharp barrier reef between us. How do I tear it down? What on earth do I do?
Signed, Frozen at Death's Door
Dear Frozen at Death's Door,ANSWER: Fear of the unknown creates the barrier between you and your dad. Become familiar with the unfamiliar and the fear will disappear. Talk to him with love on every word. Keep him comfortable. Tell him you love him. Again and again. Indulge to-gether in simple pleasures like watching a Star Trek movie marathon to remind yourselves that the next frontier is still life, just not life as we know it.
To All Forms of Life, Maddy